Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Who knows?

So the date actually went pretty well. We met downtown and ended up walking for about an hour and a half - just walking around downtown, the capitol, and eventually near the Denver Art Museum.

Personally, I had a great time. The guy was cute, knowledgeable, polite, and just an all around great guy. We were approached by a guy in an eye patch for money, which was strange, but hey - it makes for a great first date. :)

Here's where I need your help. The guy is really sweet and very genuine. He's already said or written that he's one of those nice guys...

In emails he's said that he found me beautiful that he "couldn't wait" to hear from me...you know, all the great stuff we want to hear. When I talked to him on the phone, I came to realize that he is quite a bit more...reserved. He's genuine and polite, he's just not OUT there like me. Personally, I like that. I tend to look for guys that are calmer than me because if that doesn't happen, it's can be like to Jack Russel Terriers together. And if you're not a dog person, just know that that's not a good thing. Anyway, on the phone, he still was interested, but very calm about it.

So last night, at no point was he complimentary nor was he at any point uncomplimentary. He was a perfect gentleman - polite, nice, and at times pretty darn funny. But it's not like he said anything about my appearance, or that I looked like my pictures, or that ....well...anything.

There were two parts in the conversation that I can think would've been good signs:
1) After we had been walking for about an hour (and were about 20 minutes away from our cars), we were talking about good jazz clubs (we were walking by one). And there were a ton of restaurants around there. He asked if I had eaten. I said yes and asked him if he had and he said yes, but that he just wanted to make sure that he wasn't dragging me all around downtown without feeding me. I FEEL like this is a good thing because he was almost completely done with me so he could've just dropped me off at the car and been all "SEE YA!" BUT then I remember that he's a nice guy so maybe he was just doing what was polite.

2) We were between our two cars (which were about 3 blocks apart) and it got to this weird awkward stage where I could've started a new topic or let the old one die off. So I let it die off and then said something like, "Well, thanks for meeting with me." And he said that he had a good time with me and that he'd like to do it again. I know...you're thinking WHY is she freaking out? This is her answer! And I hear you. Only, for the next 10 minutes as he walked me to my car (and we were talking), he didn't ever say that he would call me, or email me, or...well...any sort of call to action. So it was weird.

Basically, I feel a little nervous because this is the first guy that I really would like to date again. I couldn't read his signals so I don't know what he was feeling...and waiting it out to see if he calls or emails?

Ugh.

It'd be like prison.*

So what do you think?


*No, not really. :)

4 comments:

Rebecca Jo said...

It sounds like it went really well!!!! I like that he was going to feed you if you hadn't ate, even though he already had.. very gentlemen-ly!

We'll (look - I'm saying WE like all your blog buddies are in on this with you!) wait & see if he calls again... that's all you can do! Dont stress about it...

If anything, you had a great night out with a nice man!

And I'm the same way - I'm the loud, outgoing, loud (did I say loud?) person while my husband barely eeks out 2 words with people... totally get what your saying about 2 Jack russells!

happyfunpants said...

Thanks Rebecca Jo...you're right.

Besides, you all are definitely in this with me...I mean, you guys are the ones that are going to be reading about the fall out of any relationship I'm in...so my life? Yeah, it's your life partially too. :)

Wow. I clearly have boundary issues.

Lyn said...

I loved reading this :)
It's been a long time since I've had a date so it's nice to live it thorugh your experience! It sounds like a good date. Try not to freak out too much. You can always call HIM and ask him to do something!

McG said...

Wow... This guy sounds like a total... er... I won't get ahead of ourselves here. :D

He sounds like he's not a total read. You know, someone you can look at and say "I have you figured out... you're in a nice little compartment and I'm not going to ever take you out of that compartment ever again."

He sounds intriguing. And we all know that intriguing means HOT!